uncertentyWhen you feel uncertain, don't know what decision to make and things feel stressful, PAUSE.

I'm always supporting my clients through moments of uncertainty. I wanted to share some strategies with you so you can feel more even-keeled and less exhausted by life's push and pull.

My first suggestion is to drop the I don't know what to do frenetic energy and language.

Using words like hectic and "all over the place" to describe yourself only creates more of what you don't want. We can be unknowingly addicted to the chaos of feeling lost.

Instead, get quiet and remember that you have brilliant intuition and are powerful beyond measure.

Pull out your journal and write your answers to these four questions?

1. What am I feeling right now?

2. What is the decision I feel uncertain about making?

3. What am I afraid will happen?

4. What do I want more than anything right now?

Here are some tips for these questions:

1. List as many feelings as are true. When you name your feelings (use an emotional scale) you take back your power so your feelings don't own you. If you don't know what you're feeling, you don't know the baseline from which you're making decisions. For example, if you're scared, angry, depressed and desperate it's not the time to make any decisions. Your feelings give you information about how to care for yourself and what comes next. Conversely, you might think you're anxious, when in fact you have an appropriate level of positive expectation.

2. Don't get into the ins and outs of the situation to avoid taking yourself down the rabbit hole. Simply state the facts of the situation. The decision might be something different than you thought it was.

3. List ALL your fears even the ones that feel silly. This list is for nobody but you unless you choose to share it.

4. Give yourself permission to be honest about what you REALLY want. If it feels simple, you're onto something.

Let's say that what you really want (q.4) is peace. That answer doesn't seem like a specific enough answer. I get it. Bare with me.

Firstly, you've taken some time to check-in with yourself. The certainty you crave is only going to come from PAUSING and self-reflecting.

Remember, the answers don't live outside of you, they're inside of YOU so it makes sense that you need to go inward to unlock them.

Secondly, peace IS your action step. Let me explain.

Knowing that you REALLY want peace, your best and only job is to cultivate peace everywhere in your life.

For example:

- Start noticing moments when you felt peaceful in your day and write them down or say them out loud to make them real.

- When something feels off, ask yourself, "What would peace look like right now?" and choose that instead.

- Journal for 10 minutes about three ways you are cultivating your own chaos.

- Have a conversation with a friend about how they experience peace to get some new ideas and to actually experience peace as you're talking.

You want the bright, clear answer so you can solve the problem and move on and leave pesky uncertainty behind. I totally get you. I struggled with second-guessing myself for so many years and it was painful and confusing.

Your ability to tolerate uncertainty will determine the quality of your life.

You can chase uncertainty around thinking you're busy solving the problem. The better option is to explore the uncertainty within you.

To emphasize this point, one of my favorite quotes is:

You might be busy, but who are you busy becoming?

These inner-work skills are central to how I support my clients' development. I can help you develop them, too.

As a Master Coach who uses them regularly to quiet my own noise, reassure myself that the answers I have are enough, and to trust what's coming to me, I understand the vulnerability of the work, the pain of needing to know, and the beautiful release of surrender.

PAUSING and self-reflecting is the way you can prevent burnout, feeling exhausted at the end of the day like you have nothing left to give, and constantly wondering if you are enough and if you're doing enough to fulfill your beautiful dreams.

Remember, clarity doesn’t come from rushing through the noise or pushing through uncertainty. It comes from the quiet moments when you PAUSE and tune into yourself. By getting honest about what you’re feeling, what you fear, and what you truly want, you create space for peace, alignment, and powerful decisions to emerge.

If you need a guide to support you in developing these skills, I’m here to help you navigate this journey with grace, self-compassion, and trust in your own brilliance.

With Love,

Sarah x