Sometimes, I struggle with being out in the world. I come home and feel vulnerable, like my skin is crawling, and I don’t know what to do with the energy buzzing in my body—simply because I had the courage to show up, share my ideas, and take up space. Can you relate?

I sit on my daybed, replaying what I said, as if obsessing over it long enough could rewrite reality. I could have commanded the room more. Why did I make it so personal instead of talking about my business? Why don’t I take charge more? Did I come across as too pushy when I shared my idea?

I seem to think that overthinking will give me the control I crave.

And yet, there are other moments when I walk away from the exact same situation feeling invincible—like I’m brilliant, talented, magnetic. Sometimes, this disparity leaves me wondering… Who am I, really? Am I as full of myself as I think I am? What does that even mean?

I’ve been in this pattern long enough to recognize that simply living brings up these feelings for me. That showing up, being seen, and putting my voice into the world will always come with a mix of pride and vulnerability. And most importantly? That just because these feelings show up doesn’t mean I have to latch onto them. Why?

Because feelings aren’t facts.

I’m also learning to let go of judging what triggers them. My inner critic likes to chime in with a condescending edge:

"What’s wrong with you? You can’t even handle a simple meeting without spiraling?"

Yep, sometimes it does.

And I could either be in denial about that and fan the flame of my self-criticism…or I can take a breath, name what’s happening, and remind myself:

🔥 I am still worthy of love and respect.
🔥 Doubt doesn’t mean I’m doing it wrong—it means I care.
🔥 These thoughts don’t define me, and they sure as hell don’t get to hold me back.

The more I name these moments, the more I hear my clients saying the exact same things.

➡️ “I feel like I’m faking it, and one day, someone’s going to find out.”
➡️ “I replay conversations 20 times and still don’t feel better about them.”
➡️ “I feel like I’m leading, but am I actually making an impact?”
➡️ “What if they misunderstood me? What if I sounded like an idiot?”

Listen, your thoughts aren’t the problem. The problem is believing them without questioning them.

At my best? I eat challenges for breakfast. Because of my next-level mindset, I know how to move through self-doubt without letting it derail me.

However, let’s be real: eating challenges for breakfast doesn’t mean they go down easy. Sometimes, they feel like a five-course meal you didn’t order—messy, slow, and hard to digest.

So what do you do? You take smaller bites.

Instead of spiraling into self-doubt, try this: Pause. Name the thought. Ask yourself, "Is this true?"And then, decide what’s actually helpful to carry forward. Not every thought deserves a seat at your table, and you can choose how you want to feel.

I know this because I’ve been there—and because I’ve coached thousands of women through the exact same patterns. With over 14 years of experience and more than 4,000 coaching hours under my belt, I’ve seen firsthand how these small shifts create massive results. And trust me—when you learn how to lead your mind instead of letting it lead you, everything changes.

If this hit home, book a free session and let’s talk about how to move through these thoughts and show up as the fullest, boldest, most confident version of you. It’s time to stop playing tug-of-war with your own brilliance and actually own it.

With Love,

Sarah x